01/20/05

Safety Planning…

If you are still in an abusive relationship:

1.       Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen).

2.       Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.

3.       Keep change or a fully charged cell phone with you at all times.

4.       Memorize all important numbers. Establish a "code word or sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.

5.       Think about what you will say to your partner if he\she becomes violent.

6.       Remember that you have the right to live without fear and violence.

7.       Maintain copies of important papers, i.e. birth certificates, social security cards, immunization records, immigration documents, and bank information with some spare cash in a secure place known only to you.

If you have left the abusive relationship:

1.       Change your phone number.

2.       Screen calls.

3.       Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the batterer.

4.       Change locks, if the batterer has a key.

5.       Avoid staying alone.

6.       Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.

7.       If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.

8.       Vary your routine.

9.       Notify school and work contacts.

10.   Call a family violence shelter for information and support.